Porn watching question, Relationships, Religion?

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I've seen porn become a problem in some of my family members lives and he is very caring ect so im afraid porn will change his views about sex and what is exciting. sometimes i think his mind is already getting just a bit more callused. but he has ALWAYS watched it somewhat
I'm a girl in a long distance relationship. I'm Christian. We been together for 2 years. I've never had any serious problem with my guy even though I knew that occasionally he watched some porn. But now he's up to twice a week. He is comfortable to tell me that he's gonna watch some or has watched some. He dosen't cheat and as of now we are still trying to not have sex. I know he feels porn is his right because he is faithful, but just recently it hit me like a ton of bricks. It irks the crap outta me that he's masturbating to sluts twice a week. He says it's only for about 5 mins and it's only cuz we're not together. I'm not hard core against porn watcher but this is getting to me all of a sudden.
 
its not you , and if you cant keep up with him well cut his ass loose its not going too get better hey im swm and its so much ill take my girl over all good luck
 
thats the same thing wit my gf.. she dnt care that i watch porn. but i dnt jerk off to it.. if i were in ur position i wud get mad bout it cuz he jerks off to it.. but if he wasnt jerkin off to it i wudnt care. but thats jus me..
 
Why do they have to be sluts? lol What's not to say he's not masturbating to your picture every now and than, if he is what does that make you? It better then him going out and finding one of these "sluts" and her satisfying him what you can't give him right?
 
i agree with lt. p some guys watch two times a day. at least he;s open and honest with you which is weird.
 
You have every right to be mad, It's really about how much he watches it because, 2 days could turn into 5 and 5 can turn into 7. That's when it starts becoming an addiction. It's a slow transition. I'd talk to him about. And if he decides that he doesn't want to look at porn anymore then keep up with that! Every day ask him if or how much porn he's seen that day. A few other things you could is pray about, Read up on it. I personally loved the book Sex God by a pastor named Rob Bell. A lot of interesting points about sex/relationships. Hope that helps.
 
I'm Catholic and have watched porn with all my girlfriends (but more often without!). Has never been a problem.
 
Let's face it. Everyone gets horny. And masturbating is completely normal. Watching porn is totally healthy and normal as well. Wouldn't you rather he masturbate than cheat on you or be pressuring you to have sex? I think it's great that you have the kind of relationship where he's comfortable enough to talk to you about it. But if it really makes you uncomfortable you should tell him how you feel.
 
90% of guys watch porn. It is what we like. Your are going to have to live with that. But One time I loved a girl and I couldn't jackoff on porn because I was thinking about her too much. I couldnt even jackoff to her. =/
 
The majority of men, and I'd imagine some women too, watch porn if not regularly then every now and then. It is no reflection on you or your relationship. Lust is a natural urge and porn is there to fulfill that urge. A lot of my previous boyfriends have watched porn while we were in a relationship and told me about it, I even bought my ex a calendar once of a model he liked and he told me that he would definitely be having a w*nk over it (he was a weird character but that was his way of saying thank you...) I wouldn't take it personally which is what it sounds like he is doing, it's better he is doing that than getting sexual pleasure from another woman. Just relax and appreciate that he is making an effort in your relationship to self-satisfy rather than go else where. I think that's special and you should be proud, there's a lot of men out there who would have just strayed.
 
um thats kinda gross i say u at least tell him to jerk off to pics of u lol and um u should really think about telling him to stop and u doing it for him cuz this is just nasty sorry for my answer but its true
 
I understand what you mean, my bf was the same.
but think about it this way, we're only human. Since you guys are long
distance and trying to hold off on the sex, its only human for him
to "relieve" himself somehow . You should be happy he is being faithful and open about his porn. You should talk to him and try and work something out, I know this may sound horrible seeing that you're christian but maybe you should try some teasing on the phone? get his mind off those "sluts" and onto you.
it will make a difference.
 
If you guys dont have sex then you gotta cut him some slack. At least he is being honest and faithful to you. And twice a week doesnt sound bad at all. Some guys do it multiple times a day. Have sex with him, or let him masterbate.
 
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