Religion... not nerdy it has to do with friends, trust me.?

[mLexeem]

So my friend Chloe is Jehovah's witness. but i am catholic... she is really judgmental on everything and everyone- she talks about how annoying my main friends are. it makes me feel uncomfortable, when we do partners in my latin class- she won't let me work with my BEST friend. One time I tried working with both of them- jeez she got soooo mad! i just couldn't understand why? So now she said i can't look at her when we are partnering up, chloe is afraid that jessi will look at me and want to work with me. so she says to just look at her(chloe) and at lunch sometimes she talks about her meetings and stuff... and i will like talk about mine how i had like church and stuff and jesus, she will be like no, that didn't happen. idk what to say? because i don't believe in what she believes? what should i do? i have been friends with her for 6 years, all elementary, all middle school. she is not aloud to date, and when i wear makeup- in which i don't even wear that much- she goes your make up looks awful, that's way too much. she criticizes me and everyone! i have tried to talk to her about it, but she yelled at me, and held a grudge, but really she is a fun person and really nice when she isn't acting like that. so don't tell me to get new friends or leave her, just how do i handle this stuff, she argues about our religions all of the time! i don't know what to do... please help!

 

[JoeS]

First of all, learn some proper spacing.

Second, I suggest you show this to your friend. That's right, this URL. Show her how this bothers you.
If she takes it the wrong way and gets angry, well, oh well then, you tried to be honest.

Trust me when I say this, all friends are expendible, even if you don't think they are.

 

[FallenAngel]

be strait up with her. tell her how you feel about all of this. take her away from everyone and talk to her 1 on 1 about it. u respect her beliefs so she should respect yours and ur friends. its could be a phase, i like to argue with my friends about thier relgions but i respect what they believe, maybe shes the same but without the respect part. just talk to her about it and see where it goes from there.

 

[teieleamm]

Your friend sounds controlling and unpleasant. If you want to work with your best friend, then go for it. When she makes fun of your religion, ignore her, or just politely disagree. If she's making fun of you for wearing make up- telling you that you look bad, ignore her again. If she continues to say these things and p*ss you off, then give her an ultimatum: "either stop being a b*tch or we stop being friends!" type of thing.

-Tila.

 

[mmmsmymmhmmhmmmmr™]

Why on earth are you friends with her still? If she was constantly nagging at me about my makeup, I'd tell her that she can either shut up about it or leave. If she argued with me about religion, she can either shut up about it or leave. Don't take crap from her just because she is *sometimes* nice. If she can't respect you ALL the time, she's not a true friend.

 

[NaRkNiHiLiSt]

With reading just the top two lines, I answer: your JW "friend" is only your "friend" because they are intent on selling their religon to you. I fact, all religious "friends" do that because "that's what they are supposed to do".

It's all tied in with her religion. There MAY be a percentage of her not wanting to be that way, mind you. You must find it within yourself to determine how much of what she says to be something SHE IS STRUGGLING WITH or she simply doesn't care. I doubt there is a large level of uncaring because of the amount of time you have spent as friends.

She is probably working through the brainwashing that she has to go through. Drop religion, and you drop the brainwashing. It is NOT near as easy for a child to do this with strict parents.

If anything, care for her brain because that is what is being harmed at this point in life. Children's brain functions are a thousand times more receptive than an adult's brain functions. It just seems like adults are smarter because they are more experienced.

 

[SylviaC]

well first of all you are both in the wrong religion. Hers is a cult, and your religion makes the pope head of the church, which he isnt. Christ Jesus is head of the church, So why not suggest you and her both try a different kind of church where the Word of God is taught?

 

[MadDog]

Ugh, the religion awkwardness. Yea.. I get that A LOT (I'm a Catholic with LOTS of friends from different religions.)

The best thing to do try to have her respect YOUR beliefs and you respect HERS.

I will let even let my atheist friends now that I believe in God and they respect me for it as I do to them.