Before we were married my wife and I were very active people. We roller bladed, worked out, and hiked all the time. A few months before the wedding she lost 15 pounds and had very nice figure. She swore to keep that up, but sadly she has not. In fact over the years she has gained about 10 pounds a year. Me on the other hand has kept up with my workout routine and have a better body now at 30 than I did at 20. Her weight is directly effecting our relationship on every level. I invite her to the gym and she is busy, I ask her to go dancing she does not feel like it, I suggest ways she can lose weight and she says I am calling her fat. We fight all the time about silly things. The other day I noticed I could not bring myself to tell her I loved her anymore. I am spending more time with my friends and having more frequent guys nights out. Where my focus is wingman for my single friends. Playing the part of wingman means I have to appear single myself and do "certain things" single men do. My question is how do I help my wife understand if she does not lose some weight I may not be around anymore.