...yell/threaten - advice? My son turns 4 in 3 months. I thought he'd be less "of a baby" by now, but he's not. He's very bright and intelligent, but if something's not reacting the way he wants or he doesn't get what he wants, he will cry and whine. I understand life won't go the way you want all the time, but he DOESN'T GET it. We have taken a strict reaction of ignoring him, closing the door, etc when he does this but it *keeps* continuing. I keep thinking "OK, this will be gone in 6 months" but the 6 months keep passing. I see similar aged girls (who I know are more mature than boys) outside and I don't hear 1 whine or cry! He's making me nervous and twitchy with all the over-emotions. What are ways to make this subside?
We've tried being gentle, firm, calm, ignoring, and mad. Nothing really works.
I threatened to take all his toys out of his room and put them in the closet and he'd have to 'earn them back' by not crying. It made him get serious. My husband can't take it either. Examples: Son was trying to use bike (still can't figure it out). We try to help and teach him, he says it's too hard and quits. We let him try by himself = too hard & quits, whines, cries. He talks to me constantly I can barely think - if I try to be quiet - he gets angry. He makes annoying noises all day - mouth noises - it drives you crazy.
Should he be this babyish? He starts preschool in Aug. -would have done sooner but wasn't potty trained - I think it will help learn OBEYING, but how to respect us??
Whines & cries:
-His blanket will fall off onto to the floor in the middle of the night. He won't get it, he'll cry for 30 minutes for us.
-He can't find a toy or sippy cup, he won't search more than 20 seconds, then has a fit. I tell him *calmy* let's go search the house, we find it, but he doesn't get he doesn't have to cry!!
-He almost refuses to listen to us. Husband has to practically scream at him to get him to cooperate.
We are really stressed. I don't think anything's really wrong with him - he's bright - but I am worried he's spoiled. We have lots of toys and grandparent toys, he has a lot. Even if I threaten to take stuff away, another level of the house has toys.
I just can't take anymore of him crying! It rattles my brain!! Ugh, you get the picture. Any advice?
Tiffany, not only do we have the same son, we have the same first name! No other child, he's our only one. I may email you!
I think boys are like this at this age. The doctor noticed he was crying a lot (well, haha, he's at the doctors he has a right to cry, every time he gets a shot!)
He very well knows what's expected of him. He's adamantly going against it. No movements with the sound, he does it to annoy us, and get a reaction - like quacking like a duck over and over, or a snake sound.
He loves reactions, like when he does something bad, or funny. His eyes light up for naughty stuff lately. He's even saying regular words in a naughty tone. I think it's just "sticking it to the parents" and enjoying it.
We've tried being gentle, firm, calm, ignoring, and mad. Nothing really works.
I threatened to take all his toys out of his room and put them in the closet and he'd have to 'earn them back' by not crying. It made him get serious. My husband can't take it either. Examples: Son was trying to use bike (still can't figure it out). We try to help and teach him, he says it's too hard and quits. We let him try by himself = too hard & quits, whines, cries. He talks to me constantly I can barely think - if I try to be quiet - he gets angry. He makes annoying noises all day - mouth noises - it drives you crazy.
Should he be this babyish? He starts preschool in Aug. -would have done sooner but wasn't potty trained - I think it will help learn OBEYING, but how to respect us??
Whines & cries:
-His blanket will fall off onto to the floor in the middle of the night. He won't get it, he'll cry for 30 minutes for us.
-He can't find a toy or sippy cup, he won't search more than 20 seconds, then has a fit. I tell him *calmy* let's go search the house, we find it, but he doesn't get he doesn't have to cry!!
-He almost refuses to listen to us. Husband has to practically scream at him to get him to cooperate.
We are really stressed. I don't think anything's really wrong with him - he's bright - but I am worried he's spoiled. We have lots of toys and grandparent toys, he has a lot. Even if I threaten to take stuff away, another level of the house has toys.
I just can't take anymore of him crying! It rattles my brain!! Ugh, you get the picture. Any advice?
Tiffany, not only do we have the same son, we have the same first name! No other child, he's our only one. I may email you!
I think boys are like this at this age. The doctor noticed he was crying a lot (well, haha, he's at the doctors he has a right to cry, every time he gets a shot!)
He very well knows what's expected of him. He's adamantly going against it. No movements with the sound, he does it to annoy us, and get a reaction - like quacking like a duck over and over, or a snake sound.
He loves reactions, like when he does something bad, or funny. His eyes light up for naughty stuff lately. He's even saying regular words in a naughty tone. I think it's just "sticking it to the parents" and enjoying it.