I never came out to my family. I think my dad, particularly, always knew that I was gay, but he tried to deny it, or knock it out of me somehow. When I was about nine, he tried to teach me how to fight in an attempt to make me more manly, and ended up breaking my arm. Then he told me to tell everyone that I fell down the stairs. If that's how he treated a nine-year-old kid who he didn't even know for sure was gay, then what would he do to an adult who was confirming it? I don't have any brothers or sons that could have reacted negatively. My sister heard it through one of her friends and didn't care, and my mum died before I got a chance to tell her.