...tell her the truth? Ive been dating my girlfriend for two years, and im really growing tired of her asking me so many questions all the time. If i tell her "I dont know" to just get her off my back, she says "whats wrong?" and if i say nothing, then she tells me im lying, and if i tell her in a few brief words what im really feeling, she will probe further. It forces me to explain myself constantly and i hate explaining myself with every answer i have to a question.
Ive tried explaining this to her but her feelings are hurt and she takes it personally. And then if i hide it from her and just try to move on and she finds out later, she will tell me "all you had to do was talk to me about it!"
Then if we get into an argument over these things, she will interrupt me and not let me finish speaking, and start to yell over me. If i tell her i liked some food she cooked and im not super chipper in my tone, she will accuse me of not liking it, and argue with me until i tell her i didnt like it.
I love her, but my mind is spent, and i dont know who i am anymore, i dont want to leave her because i dont know what i feel about anything anymore. I dont really even care to talk about anything anymore. Im even timid about asking this question for fear she is going to go through the history and confront me about it.
The strangest thing about all of this is that she is one of the most considerate people when it comes to needing help, shed put her neck on the line for me and she cares a lot about me. But she has a tendency to use it against me when we get into fights, like how could i view her so poorly.
I know this has a lot to do with insecurity, but is this anything i can change? Whats something i can do to help her? If i try to rationalize these things and be reasonable, she takes it personally, and gets defensive telling me i dont listen to her side of the story. But her side of the story is that she is never wrong, and im a spoiled biatch.
Ive tried explaining this to her but her feelings are hurt and she takes it personally. And then if i hide it from her and just try to move on and she finds out later, she will tell me "all you had to do was talk to me about it!"
Then if we get into an argument over these things, she will interrupt me and not let me finish speaking, and start to yell over me. If i tell her i liked some food she cooked and im not super chipper in my tone, she will accuse me of not liking it, and argue with me until i tell her i didnt like it.
I love her, but my mind is spent, and i dont know who i am anymore, i dont want to leave her because i dont know what i feel about anything anymore. I dont really even care to talk about anything anymore. Im even timid about asking this question for fear she is going to go through the history and confront me about it.
The strangest thing about all of this is that she is one of the most considerate people when it comes to needing help, shed put her neck on the line for me and she cares a lot about me. But she has a tendency to use it against me when we get into fights, like how could i view her so poorly.
I know this has a lot to do with insecurity, but is this anything i can change? Whats something i can do to help her? If i try to rationalize these things and be reasonable, she takes it personally, and gets defensive telling me i dont listen to her side of the story. But her side of the story is that she is never wrong, and im a spoiled biatch.