Ifyouonlyknew
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the guy I turned down. Help? I was friends with this guy Robby for a few years now. He's kind of a loser. He never graduated high school, he never went to school for anything, he works at a sandwich place, and smokes weed all day long for fun...he's a hood and doesn't really have a lot going for him, and his mom is the same way. But he was always there for me as a friend, and helped me get over my ex. I guess his older brother died when he was younger, and he says that's what f*cked up his family and his parents. So I ended up growing pretty close to this guy because I felt bad for him. We're nothing alike...I have a 4.0 in a medical school, and came from a good clean family and I also have a job and goals I want to fill. Being so close in friendship with this guy, made me get...sexual feelings for him and we hung out for the first time in a long time 3 weeks ago, and I stayed over night at his place and we went all the way. Since then, we've had sex 4 times and I started getting emotionally attached to him.
I told him I started getting feelings for him, but he told me he had to get his s*** straight first. I'm not really sure what he needed to get straight, and how that effects having a girlfriend. But he said he wanted to keep doing what we've been doing (sex) while he "got his life together". He told me he's not looking for other girls, and he likes me too, and not to get mad at the message but he just needs time. But then we haven't talked or seen each other for 3 weeks, so I moved on to a guy who likes me for who I am. This one is so much better. He's nice, respectful, and shows he cares. He also has a job and is in college and I know he likes me. he's been after me since September, and I turned him down in the past. But what I want, this guy has. I changed my relationship status on Facebook and Robby seen it, and he's pissed now calling me a b**** and a player, and he tells me I hurt him. But I couldn't believe him or not. It seems like he was just using me for sex because it became routine. I think I really did hurt him, but he's a loser and it would be hard being with him...my future and everything. But I can't be mean. I've been thinking about this ever since this morning. I apologized to him, but he keeps telling me to f*** off and how I messed up. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want him viewing me as a player or another one of those girls who are just scum. But I haven't heard from him for weeks, how long did he expect me to "wait" for him? I really did start to have feelings for him, but I just can't...
I told him I started getting feelings for him, but he told me he had to get his s*** straight first. I'm not really sure what he needed to get straight, and how that effects having a girlfriend. But he said he wanted to keep doing what we've been doing (sex) while he "got his life together". He told me he's not looking for other girls, and he likes me too, and not to get mad at the message but he just needs time. But then we haven't talked or seen each other for 3 weeks, so I moved on to a guy who likes me for who I am. This one is so much better. He's nice, respectful, and shows he cares. He also has a job and is in college and I know he likes me. he's been after me since September, and I turned him down in the past. But what I want, this guy has. I changed my relationship status on Facebook and Robby seen it, and he's pissed now calling me a b**** and a player, and he tells me I hurt him. But I couldn't believe him or not. It seems like he was just using me for sex because it became routine. I think I really did hurt him, but he's a loser and it would be hard being with him...my future and everything. But I can't be mean. I've been thinking about this ever since this morning. I apologized to him, but he keeps telling me to f*** off and how I messed up. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want him viewing me as a player or another one of those girls who are just scum. But I haven't heard from him for weeks, how long did he expect me to "wait" for him? I really did start to have feelings for him, but I just can't...