Been married six years today, 14 Feb 2009. A little over a year ago she started a new job after graduating college. She is a research scientist. She shares an office with a single guy around 30 years of age. (I'm 27 and she is 26) Her job requires them to travel. Over the last year she began drifting away from me. I sat down with her numerous times and tried to work it out, but she didn't act like she cared. I was concerned about this guy and told her from the beginning to make sure he knows his place and keep it professional. It got to the point over the last few months that I told her I was really hurt and needed her. It led to a night of tears for me and I explained that I felt like I had nothing in my life... She seemed like she cared, but didn't have much to say. I suspected that they were involved, but didn't want to believe it. She always said that they are just really good friends. She might have thought that but him being a guy with a very attractive girl is going to make him think certain things. Anyway, I get a call at work last week only to find out that my father had a massive heart attack... I go to VA to be with him. On the day I came back from seeing my dad, she was going to a parade and said she would be back that evening. I come back only to find my dogs are in a kennel and she's not home. The other weird thing was that my house was freezing inside and the heat was turned off on the thermostat. I felt like she probably wasn't here the day before...I finally get a hold of her around 9pm and hear a loud party in the background. I ask her where she is and asked if she stayed the night here the previous night. She said she would be home in a little while and I finally got it out of here that she didn't stay at our house the night prior! I told her I needed to know what was going on and for her to come home so that we could talk. She agreed finally...Now I knew something was up so I checked her email only to find that she had send two pictures of her nude ass (posing in a mirror) to the guy she works with! There were also emails between them asking if he would stay with her on the weekends and such... FYI, the only time I am gone on the weekends would be my upcoming deployment. He calls her "pet names" and said he would do anything for her, etc.... I couldn't breathe. I couldn't cry. I couldn't even scream. I automatically print the emails and forward them to my work email account for proof. She finally comes home and I break down. She says that they are just friends and she might have crossed the line with the pictures but didn't know why she sent them and that it’s not like that between them. We talked for a long time that night and I couldn't sleep. The next day she was very emotional and said that she was so sorry to have hurt me and that she had realized that there was nothing between her and this guy. I asked her why she spent the night at his place and she said that she needed someone to talk to and felt like he was her best friend. (Spend the night two days after she sent him naked pics) She says she slept on his couch. So anyway that day I trusted her and said that I love her and am willing to give it another chance but she has to make sure this guy knows they are just friends... And, that she truly doesn't feel anything for him. She didn't want to but I told her to either send him and email or call him to explain that I had found their emails and the pictures. Also she needed to explain that they crossed a major line and she doesn't feel anything for him more than a friend. She drafted an email up and it only mentioned that she crossed a line with the pictures in their friendship but she refuse to mention anything to him about crossing a line in her own marriage. She tried to explain to me that our marriage had nothing to do with him. The email was never sent. I take a drive later that day and pull into the grocery store next to our house to find her sitting in her car looking at her cell phone. I walk up to the car and see that she is texting. I open the door and grab her phone real quick. She is pissed but before I handed it back it beeped. I looked at the text and it was from this asshole that she works with. It said "There are just some things that you are going to have to lie about.”I asked her what the hell that meant and she said that he told her she would have to lie to me about how they are only really good friends because I wouldn't understand it. That night I sat with her at our kitchen table and asked her to lay it all out there so that we can move past this and I know what exactly happened. I shoot this guy a polite but straight forward email telling him that they both crossed a major line in our marriage and from this point on I can handle a professional friendship at their office but that it ends there... No more personal emails or texts. I also told I need him to take a step back out of my marriage so that we can figure