Wife and I have been separated for 2 months going on a weekend trip...

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...together, need help? My wife and I have been apart for 2 months, we both love each other very much but have some issues she cannot get past. We have seen each other a few times in the past 2 weeks but that pretty much just been physical. We up and decided we wanna try to work things out or at least see if it's still there and are going on a little weekend trip. Thing is, I don't know what to say, what to talk about, let alone how to act. We have both seen other people during our time apart but think we realize its not there with them. I am so nervous I cant stand it. I'm just so worried about trying to make it work but dont know where to start. I think I actually want it a little more than she does even though the trip was her idea. Please help me with what to do and how to act
 
I think most relationships fail because we stop doing what we use to do when we first meet, and get together. That's why people cheat, because it's the excitement of meeting someone for the first time, they don't know your faults, you don't know theirs, but, once it wears off, they realize he/she is no different from their current partner. I'm sure you remember the excitement when you first met, spending extra time getting dressed, making sure you have on the right cologne, and just making sure you don't do or say anything stupid. You go out of your way to make a good impression. You need to go back and have that mentality, but, you have an extra bonus on your side this time, you know what she likes, what she does not like. It's hard to say too much, with out knowing the specific issues, I would just try and make this a weekend about her, not about you.

And I don't necessarily mean sex, unless it leads to that, but, make her favorite food, have her favorite music playing, give her a nice massage with no strings attached, flowers on the bed, watch her favorite movie with her, even if you don't like it. But, it can't be fake, these types of things have to happen all the time, and I'm sure she will return the favor one day. Just remember, everyone has problems, everyone has fights, being in love is not a promise of never having problems, it a promise of accepting that person and working through these problems.
 
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